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THE LAW OF CREDIBILITY

The Law of Credibility states that credibility is the ability of entities to earn, receive and accept credit for what they do, and to refuse credit for anything they have not done.

Your credibility is the standard by which others may evaluate you to determine how they will relate to you.

"A man has honor if he holds himself to an ideal of conduct though it is inconvenient, unprofitable, or dangerous to do so."
~ Walter Lippman ~

The word 'credibility' also means 'believability' and 'genuineness'. Credibility has a way of defining and therefore revealing the quality of life and the value system a given person subscribes to. Therefore, a person's qualities are the standards they have set for themselves that allows others to know the best manner in which to interact with them.

There is nothing more meaningful in life than honoring & expressing our Authentic Self--our true nature. Living authentically, in its simplest terms, is living our Truth. It's allowing our self to be guided daily by Divine Truth and Wisdom. Of course, it isn't always easy--it can be downright hard work, especially in the beginning before it has become a habit. It requires the courage to ask ourselves the big, hard questions, and to be completely honest with ourselves about what is truly important--to follow our heart's wisdom, to live our deepest truth, and align to our personal reality in every sense. When we are living an authentic life, we can rest assured we are contributing our soulful nature to the world and, thus, creating a better, more authentic and soulful life experience for everyone around us.

For those who are still a bit unclear on the concept of authenticity or who would like some ideas to chew and digest, I offer the following lists and suggestions, which I've extracted from an article on authenticity written by Carol Adrienne, Ph.D.

The Inauthentic Self:

Feels anxious

Is a people-pleaser

Second guesses every decision

Rationalizes

Is rigid

Wants to impress others

Says or does things he regrets

Doesn’t expect much

Placates

Hides or denies feelings

Feels like a victim

Is paralyzed or hyperactive

Uses addictive behavior

Feels confused and overwhelmed

Feels helpless or hopeless

Is depressed or angry

Gets trapped in endless mind chatter

The Authentic Self:

Feels optimistic

Is honest and open

Commits but is flexible

Thinks for himself

Goes with the flow, open to change

Wants to do her best

Knows when to apologize

Knows how to accept and receive

Negotiates

Listens to feelings

Takes responsibility

Acts when appropriate

Makes healthy choices

Knows when to stop and reevaluate

Knows how to ask for help

Feels happy a lot of the time

Is tuned into a larger field of intelligence

How We Might Increase Our Sense of Being Truly Authentic
by Carol Adrienne, Ph.D.

MEDITATE.
Practice clearing the mind regularly. Observe passing thoughts as if they were clouds.

SPECIFY THE FEAR.
When you feel fear about some new action or decision, write down exactly what you are afraid might happen. Get very clear about the shape of the fear and what you are actually dealing with.

FIND THE ROOT.
Ask yourself, Whose voice is talking to me? Who is making me afraid? Is it my voice? My parents? The voice of mass media?

MANAGE AROUND THE FEAR.
Write down specific things you could do to work around the fear so that you can take a small step in spite of it.

DROP SELF-DOUBT.
The best way to feel good about yourself is to complete something that you have been putting off, or to set one small goal and achieve it. Nothing begins to erase self-doubt more easily than a little string of successes.

LOOK FOR A THIRD SOLUTION.
Whenever you are agonizing over two choices, remember that this polarization serves a purpose—to keep you from taking any step. When lost in black and white thinking, look for a third option.

APPRECIATE YOUR UNIQUENESS.
Everyone has a special knack, talents, and skills. Everyone.

STOP STRUGGLING.
There is a time for perseverance and a time to let go.

ENJOY THE MOMENT.
Take delights in small pleasures and beauty. Be with people you love and enjoy.

TAKE TIME.
Slow down. Avoid the tendency to fill up the space.

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE.
Nothing drains energy more than suppressing action, passion, and commitment.

SIMPLIFY.
Troubles arise when we set ourselves up to do too many things or to manage too much stuff. Being authentic is being able to say yes when you mean it and no when you need to.

SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE.
The beauty, quiet, and harmony of nature helps you observe your thoughts as separate from who you are. Natural surroundings help put options into perspective. Peaceful sounds of birds, flowing water, wind, and waves lull the mental chatter and clear the mind. To quote Eckhart Tolle, "When your sense of self is no longer tied to thought, is no longer conceptual, there is a depth of feeling of sensing, of compassion, of loving that was not there when you were trapped in mental concepts. You are that depth."

We need not make huge changes in our life to experience being more alert and present. Acting on any one of the choices above can immediately change how we experience our lives.

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Reader's comment:
This is certainly one I need work on. It's humbling and I need to be reminded of why my life feels out of balance so often.